Sometimes when we think about open relationships, we get most excited about the perks -- more love, more sex, more new relationship energy-- and forget they come with their own set of kinks to be worked through. When Mr. Nurando from Nigeria first offered me $1,000,000 if I would just hold some money for him in my bank account, my first thought was "cool", followed by "sure you do", followed by "what does Snopes say about this one?". It didn't take a lot of effort on my part to figure out that while it would be wonderful if it were true, ultimately dealing with Mr. Nurando was going to cost me more than I could afford to lose. This is compared to buying a scratch ticket on impulse at the grocery store. The odds aren't highly in my favor, but it's not going to break me to lose the dollar.
So when you meet that really sexy boy or hot lady who is already involved, I suggest you apply the same level of common sense that you would apply to a random offer of $1,000,000. Life is a series of risks and open relationships are no different. But a short pause can help you get a better handle on whether the risk you are taking is one you can afford to take.
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