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Sunday, May 3, 2009
There are some literary conveniences, heroines are less likely to be highly promiscuous than more ambitious females with fewer scruples. But there is an understanding in the books that sometimes a woman might partner with a man because he was good at his job while reserving her passion for another. (Later stories highlight this, in some ways allowing PERN to evolve in similar fashion to real life gender politics ... although the more gender equitable stories are set in the past ... )
Thursday, April 30, 2009
Driving home from Glenwood Springs this weekend was our first snow driving experience since the Close Call. Roads restricted, chains recommended, poor visibility, and leaving in the late evening all combined to increase the driving tension. I didn't want to burden T. with the extent of my neurosis, but our tell all policy seems to be unstoppable. So driving through the mountain passes, we talked about the nature of our fear. He was driving more cautiously because of our recent experiences. And I was riding more tensely for the same reason.
The experience was enlightening, for both of us. And beyond just driving. We've had poly experiences that were the equivalent of the icy roads and now we have a handy metaphor for the relationship equivalent of spinning out.
Monday, April 27, 2009
The title essay is the result of applying economic theory to lower the infection rate of sexually transmitted infections. There is something a little off-kilter about applying cost-benefit analysis to this topic (or my favorite chapter which "proves" that having daughters increases the chances of divorce for parents). But it definitely gets your mind moving in new circles.
If you enjoy the occasional mind jump, this is a great book for short, bite size shots of alterna-thinking.
Thursday, February 26, 2009
When I was 16 and living in Europe, my friend received a day trip to Austria for her birthday. We happily boarded the train and headed for adventure, eager to see the city. Except we didn't. We spent the entire day within sight of the train station. Because I was terrified if we lost sight of it, we'd never find our way back. For 9 hours, we strayed no further than a few blocks from where we started. April was frustrated and angry. But she didn't leave me. (I'm not sure why. But she got back at me later when we went to Italy. A story for another day.) She just kept trying to convince me to see the city with her. I finally conceded and we checked out some shops and a coffee place.
I haven't thought of that trip in years. But it came back to me last week. How convinced I was that leaving the safety of our starting point would be our doom. That we would lose our way and never find it again. I didn't even believe in bread crumbs, I guess. Certainly didn't trust maps. I wonder how much in life is due to a similar fear that I will lose my way.
When I see people young and fearless, eager to wander through the city, certain they will return. I envy them. And I want to warn them. Because when I finally did start exploring, it certainly took more than 9 hours for me to find my way back. I think it was worth it, I've seen a lot of amazing things. But it wasn't comforting. It wasn't safe.